March 11, 2020
I’m sometimes accused of repeating myself. “I heard that story 10 times,” or, “You already said that,” others will say to me. My children will tell you I have a habit of reviewing the same situation and dissecting its details. I may share different experiences, yet repeat the same takeaway.
There’s a common theme to my lessons — a thread that ties together the experiences I have had in business, investing, politics and life in general. That thread is people and relationships. It’s all about the who. My core values never waver, whether we’re talking about the stock market, a business transaction, a conversation with a friend or confession with a priest. What I believe and hold near to my heart never changes.
I try to follow the Jesuit motto of “men and women for others.” The Fedeli Group’s values are faith, relationships, reciprocity, philanthropy and consistency of character. I am often opinionated, sometimes taking risks, yet I’m calculated, and there are no surprises with my decisions.
I tend to be a consistent man. If you are consistent in who you are as an employer, a parent, a sibling, an investor, a manager, a community member, a neighbor or a friend, you never have to act. You’ll never find yourself in a role where you are set up to fail. Being consistent means there’s no acting, and that’s a good thing for me because I’m just not good at faking it. I am who I am.
Being consistent sometimes translates to being repetitive. I don’t believe this is a negative thing. Think about it — don’t you have to hear the same message many times before you absorb it? Or hear/see/experience it in different formats (experience, reading, watching, listening) before you truly understand it? I share different stories with the same lesson. I repeat the same favorite phrases that remind me of what matters most in life.
The following are some consistent messages, and together they tell the story of my values.
TAKEAWAY: If you are consistent in all aspects of life, you won’t need a script. Just be you.
Umberto P. Fedeli is president and CEO at The Fedeli Group
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